February 14, 2012
Today is valentines day and this is when everyone posts about their loves doing something for them. Buying flowers, chocolates, something. But as some people remind the rest of there circle of friends, you should be doing things like this the other 364 days of the year.
But instead of saying Erik got me this, or that. I rather tell you about what is love in our marriage.
We had an unconventional beginning and didn’t date. Strange I know. But it some how worked.
Let me begin by saying Erik is very sweet and I love him. When we got married- Our wedding photographer didn’t show up, so the images you see hear are from my dear friend (Heather Gray) Our first year of marriage was rocky. Erik and I know through sickness in health, its seemed at first thats what I was most of the time sick- 1st month Pneumonia.
Then maybe a year or less we thought I was dying, remember going to the doctors office and telling me I had a mass on my liver.
Erik was working. Stepping out of the office I froze and I knew Erik was going to be there. Got home as soon as I could and texted Erik he needed to come home. That night he just held me and we cried together. He just held me so close. When I thought the world was ending and my life was going to be hell. He held me so close and just kept on saying what ever happens, this is going to make it awesome. As test continued things got worse. The doctor we went to didn’t give us much answers actually made them worse and said that I might have liver cancer and was going to die in 6 months. Just what people want hear. Erik was the sweetest. He took out my bucket list and wanted to make them come true. That very weekend we drove to Mount Rushmore for a weekend away and to be with each other. The coming months we learned it was my gallbladder. When it was removed Erik never left my side that week. He helped me in and out of the bed, he woke when I couldn’t sleep and rubbed my back so I could. He made meals and was there for me. I didn’t look pretty at all. My hair was frow and I felt aweful I couldn’t give him anything at all, but he just kept on giving.
I didn’t have cancer and I am all better now.
Erik does wonderful things for me everyday. He loves on me and surprises me with flowers. He is taking me to Europe for a grand adventure. He is awesome, I must say. This year he made me a heart bracelet.
He doesn’t need to do things for me on valentines day because he does things for me every day.
Love is quality time
Love is filled with surprises
Love is giving up energy and sometimes money
Love doesn’t fade
Love is willing to give up what they are doing to be there for you